How Working Moms Can Find Balance

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Working mama, are you trying to find the infamous work-life balance? Seeking tips to help you find balance as a working mom? You’re in the right place.

You’re in the right place mama. I too tried to find a work-life balance as a new working mom. I questioned all the working moms who seemed to be rocking their working mom lives. Asking them, how do you balance it all? Or, how do you do it all as a working mom?

The harder I worked to balance work, life, family, and being a mother the more it seemed to elude me. Balance!

Through my quest to find balance and success as a new working mother I discovered that working mothers need much more support. I felt alone – and like I was failing at being a good working mom. I was genuinely mad because I couldn’t find this darn, “balance” as a working mom! You’re not alone, mama. You are not alone.

I know you simply want to have a job that pays the bills, fulfills your career goals, and show-up as the best mom you can be for your kids – without going cray-cray…

I have been a working mother for 10 years. My struggle to find balance as a working mother opened my eyes and my heart to the needs of working mothers. I now get to use my experience and the lessons I learned as a frustrated working mother along with my professional experience as a career coach to support and empower working moms to create working mom lives they need and love.

Welcome to our community! I’m so happy you’re here.

You can have a career you love & be a great mother. A Rockstar Career Mom!

These are my top 5 tips to help you find “balance” as a working mom.

First, know that things will get better. You will figure out how to find your “balance” as a working mom. I’m sharing lessons I learned throughout my years of struggling to find balance as a new working mother. These are the steps I took that were the most impactful in helping me go from being a frustrated working mother to a rockstar career mom.

It doesn’t have to be this hard. No, it should not be this hard for a mother to have a career she loves and have a family!
My hope and goal are that you can implement some of these “lessons learned” now so that you don’t spend years feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, and burned out as I did.

These tips will help you make simple and impactful changes now towards finding your balance juggle work, being a mom, and life.

Let’s do this, mama!

1. FIND WHAT YOU WANT & NEED

Have you ever heard the term, “Begin With The End In Mind”? It’s from Steven Covey’s book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It’s the second habit of seven and one of my favorites. When we know what we want it’s easier to figure out the steps we need to take to get there.

Have you thought about what your ideal working mom life looks like? What do you want and need to feel like you have balance as a working mother? Creating a working mom life that you love begins with you. Yes, mama, it begins with you and that’s exciting. You do have a say in creating an amazing working mom life more than you realize.

Take some time to reflect on how you’re doing, who you are in this season of your life, and what you want and need to feel like you’re balancing all the things as a working mom. Work-life balance is not a one-size-fits-all thing…

Our FREE 3-Day Working Moms “Me Time” Challenge can help you with making and taking time and space to re-center yourself and find your balance each day as a working mom. You know life is going to happen. You can’t control all the things that happen, but mama, you can control how you choose to react or not react.

2. IDENTIFY WHAT’S NOT SERVING YOU

It can be challenging to figure out what you want and need to find balance as a working mom in the midst of your struggle. Should this be a challenge for you as well, think about what you do not want.

It’s time to examine what’s not serving you. In life. At work and at home.

When I look back at my journey as a new working mother I realized I took on EVERYTHING. I wanted to continue rocking it at work, at home, and in life, as I did prior to becoming a mom. Somewhere along my journey, I thought I had to do it all in order to be a great working mom. Mama, You Can have it All (A Career & A Family), however, you do NOT have to do it all!

Think about all the hats you wear at home, at work, church, your kid’s school, etc., and identify what is not serving you now. In this season of your life as a working mother trying to find your balance.

3. LET THE LOAD GO

Let it go, let it go, let it go, and lighten your load! ??

Oh yes, I did! I’m singing let it go, mama! Queue the Frozen soundtrack! ?

You are an amazing superwoman, but you are HUMAN! I must tell you this is one of my biggest challenges to this day as a working mother. Letting go of the load…Giving it to someone else and asking for help.

Asking for help and getting help doesn’t make you weak or less competent at rocking it at work, at home, or in any other area of your life.

In the last step, you identified what’s not serving you, now it’s time to let the load go that’s weighing you down and preventing you from finding your balance as a working mother.

Give yourself permission to let it go.

Lighten your load as a working mom and make room for the things that will help you show up as your best self. Those things that “give-you -life, joy, and peace. Get my FREE Working Moms Balance Guide. It takes you through each step and provides a workspace for you to work through each step.

4. ASK FOR & GET HELP

Recently I was speaking with a working mom who was about to have her second child. She was nervous about how she would handle being a busy working mom with two young children. Our conversation brought me back to when I had my second daughter. It was in that season that I began to realize that something had to change. I was trying to operate like the working woman I was prior to becoming a working mother.

It was physically impossible to continue working how I did at work and at home with a toddler and a newborn. But, I didn’t realize it in the midst of juggling all the things. I dug deep trying to be a supermom. I was working at a new job in Washington, D.C. We had relocated from Florida where I could walk right out of my door to my garage and load all the things to the car in the mornings.

We were living in Northern, Virginia and working in D.C. The traffic is a beast in itself so I had to leave early mornings to drop my kids off at daycare and pre-school in order to get to work early. We lived in a condo and I had to walk to the parking lot with all our bags, the car seat, and my toddler. One morning my firstborn fell out of my SUV as I was trying to get both kids and all our bags into the car. She burst her lip and chipped her teeth. I was freaking out but I had to try and keep my composure and not scare my kids more.

Juggling a new job, two young kids, doing two drop-offs, and pick-ups wore me down. I eventually said something to my husband and without hesitation, he offered to do drop off and pick up our daughters two days a week.

It was at that moment I realized I hadn’t even thought to ask my husband for help. Having those two days where my husband took care of taking our daughters to daycare and pre-school helped me balance being a working mom better.

Do not wait to get to the breaking point I was at when out of desperation I finally asked for help. Ask for and get help ASAP!

You can find more tips and ideas of how you can ask for and get the help that will bring you to balance as a working mother in my Free Working Moms Balance Guide.

SIDE NOTE: My husband worked from home on the days he handled drop off and pick up. Mind you, he also was in a new job! It just occurred to me as I reflect on that time in our lives as working parents on how different we “balanced” being working parents. My husband asked to work remotely so that he could juggle work and our kids better. I didn’t even think about asking for the opportunity to work from home…WHY? Hindsight is foresight, right! Please learn from the lessons I learned.

5. IMPLEMENT SELF CARE | WORKING MOM MAINTENANCE

Being proactive and making and taking time for yourself is probably the most powerful and impactful tip of the five. I’m sharing two reasons why you need to make and take time for yourself.

Please lean in closer, mama.

Being aware of what’s going on within yourself is key to making the changes that you need to find balance as a working mother. If you’re not aware of the root cause of your challenges you can’t “fix” them. Self-awareness is powerful! I struggled for years balancing being a working mother. I thought my “issues” were external. My job, industry, company so I changed them. And the feelings of overwhelm, frustration, and discontent came back. When I finally made and took time for myself I began to discover the true cause of my struggles.

Your answers are within you, mama. Slow down and make time for and with yourself.

In order for you to show up for everyone that depends on you at home, at work, and in life you must make time to recharge. You cannot keep pouring into everyone you love, support, and serve from an empty cup/jar/tank! You may have taken yourself off your lists as you’re working hard to do it all at work and at home… Pouring into everyone without taking time to refuel.

Let’s be clear that practicing self-care is not being selfish, It’s necessary! I have had to work on changing my mindset about taking time for myself. I created our short and powerful 3-Day Working Moms “Me Time” Challenge to help working moms make and take time for themselves. It’s a game-changer and it is FREE!

Implement self-care as a part of your life. You’re juggling a lot as a busy working mom.
Make time to pause, slow down, and check-in and on with yourself.
Put yourself on your calendar and on your lists for regular maintenance.
Think about your car. If you drive it without putting gas in the tank or taking it in for its maintenance checks – what will happen? It will not work, right! You’re a superwoman, but you’re HUMAN. Make and take time to rest and recharge so that you can recover from the grind of juggling all the things as a busy working mom.

Lets Summarize

How can you find balance as a busy working mother juggling work, being a mom, and life?

First, find what you want and need to have your ideal working mom life. The life that you and your family need in this season of your lives.
Identify what’s not serving you in life, at home, and at work.
Let the load go. Lighten your load and make room for things that give you life, joy, and peace.
Ask for and get help. You can have it “all” – a career and a family. But, mama, you do not have to do it all!
Implement self-care and working mom maintenance! When you make and take time to refuel your “tank” it not only serves you, because it allows you to show up as your best self for everyone you love, support, and serve.

Be empowered to start with the step that will be most impactful for you now. You may need to start with some working mom maintenance and get some self-care. You got this mama. Download my FREE Working Moms Balance Guide now.

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